Coach | Kink Enthusiast | Lover | Fighter

Jay Clayton (Erebus) is a New York based dating coach with a passion for fostering healthy, fulfilling connections. This ongoing journey to self-actualization has included pondering through many different religions, philosophies, and spiritual practices. Throughout it all, one thing has remained certain: We humans are only as fulfilled as our strongest relationships.

 

Jay has dedicated his career to supporting clients in exploring their desires, building trust, and cultivating communication within alternative relationship structures. His specializations are in BDSM based dynamics as well as non-monogamous relationship structures. Jay understands the nuances and complexities inherent in both BDSM dynamics and the polyamorous lifestyle, offering tailored guidance to empower clients in their journey towards authenticity and fulfillment.

 

After receiving a degree in psychology, Jay spent some time studying at the graduate level to become a therapist. It was at this time that he discovered his true passion of helping others find and stay in love. This path led him to begin his training as a dating and relationship coach, receiving his certification in 2024.